Moving Forward - Paul Edward, PhD

Moving Forward: Turning Good Intentions Into Great Results by Discovering Yourself, Your Place, & Your Path

by Paul Edward, PhD

Moving Forward by Coach PaulOh no, not another self-help book! But wait, USC alumnus and celebrity life coach Paul Edward dubs his new work, Moving Forward: Turning Good Intentions Into Great Results by Discovering Yourself, Your Place, & Your Path, an “others-help” book and insists that one of the keys to moving forward in life is connecting with the right people. In the first volume of his new Life-Changing Coaching Series, Edward shares the five strategies he uses to help his influential clients solve problems, make better decisions, achieve goals, and get connected. Drawing on his rich experiences as a US Marine Corps officer, corporate executive, and professional life coach, Edward’s book leads the reader on a journey that begins with self-discovery and culminates in the development and implementation of a plan for real change and sustained growth. Moving Forward does not just offer theory, but it tackles some of life’s thornier practical issues, like how to successfully deal with challenging friends and family members, how to increase job satisfaction, and how to make more time for the people and activities you love. Moving Forward is a guide for those who find themselves stuck in one or more areas of their lives. Its pages brim with help and hope for anyone willing to follow the roadmap that Edward lays out for them.


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Book Reviews Review

By John Lehman

February 14, 2008

I assume that people interested in life-coaching books have tried Dr. Phil and Tony Robbins. So why are they still looking? My guess is that the approach of modifying behavior by being conscious of the results of our actions only goes so far. Paul Edward provides a psychological model that is deeper. He identifies the resources (friends, business associates and family) that can be the meta-structure we need for lasting behavioral modification. I teach writing workshops and have discovered the same thing. All the tools in the world won’t help if a person doesn’t have correct orientation and a positive support system in place. To be honest this approach proves less an “Ah ha!” revelation and more of a “there’s work to be done on several levels” type guide. But as the author quotes another teacher: “If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got!”

There are five strategies for moving forward in life. Each is given a thorough explanation with examples. I particularly like the exercises (and there are more as we get further into the material) so the reader can internalize the ideas and start to experience the difference his or her new realizations can make. I love the one on assessing ways in which others communicate, the pie chart for balancing time allocation and the one for reformatting material dreams. I happen to have bought a new computer this week and was amazed how accurately my style of evaluation of information was described here, and I was able to apply some of the distinctions between introverts and extroverts to the different ways my wife and I interact with each other (and the different ways in which we each reenergize). Those classifications fall under the heading of what Edward calls “Belongings”—who we associate with in the world--and is one of the most difficult areas to change (“Behavior” is the easiest, “Belief” somewhat harder).

The decision making section was particularly revealing to me as someone who for years made his living in sales and marketing. My intention was not to sell someone something he or she didn’t want (and would later resent me for) but to provide enough information so that person could make a good decision based upon their own needs and desires. For some people this is “sensory” and for others “intuitive.” Being able to assess the difference, as the author points out, makes life easier in both personal and professional relationships. And people evaluate according to different criteria too. In reviewing this book I feel compelled to point to specific examples; in reality I have a good feeling toward the author and the optimism of what he says and that affects my judgment more.

“There are two types of people in this world,” someone once noted, “those who think there are two types of people in this world and those who don’t.” Paul Edward seems to see things in terms of A or B (and A’s who pretend to be B’s; while some B’s are trapped into being A’s.) I don’t have any trouble with that. If nothing else it makes the differences more dramatic and easy to grasp. Here you will find a clear exploration of types of relationships and a practical formula for achieving success (Dream + Plan = Life Vision). But read this book, not only because the material is well presented and makes you think, but also because it will enrich important aspects of your life, and, yes, allow you to “move forward.”


U.S. Review of Books Review

By: Jeanette J. Jennis

April 30, 2009

"A key to moving forward in life is recognizing exactly which conditions you thrive in and designing your environment to be in-sync with those conditions (or personality preferences)."

Are you a professional athlete, Hollywood star, corporate executive, or notable celebrity? Fortunately, for those of us not in those special categories, Edward's defines ways for anyone to successfully move forward in life and realize their dreams and goals. His comprehensive and multidimensional approach evolved from years of experience as a Marine officer, a corporate executive, a university professor, and a professional life coach. Detailed and proven strategies prepare you to map out your own distinctive life code and life plan.

Those familiar with the famous quote "know thyself" will find this time-honored counsel creatively mirrored in modern-day language using expert methods of self-exploration. Step-by-step, you are led to discover who you are on many levels. Edward asserts that by aligning your public identity with your private personality characteristics you are in-sync, which increases your ability to get the results you want. It is in many ways a Buddhist approach to coming in harmony with your environment or milieu by first being the best version of yourself, being true to yourself. It becomes easy to discern how your method of self-expression affects your relationships, goals, and challenges as you learn which of the five personality preferences best reflect the real you. Closely examining your beliefs, behaviors, and belongings and their inter-connectedness, also provides significant information.

Whether you are an extrovert or introvert, whether you approach ideas as a thinker or a feeler, or you value sensory stimulus more than intuition, your individual preferences greatly determine your energy level, as well as information gathering, evaluating, decision making, and communication skills. In some respects, we get trapped into our expectations of who we are, as opposed to the results we are truly gathering. Edward's greatest talent is his ability to turn our eyes toward this truth, but keep turning the pages for a wealth of topics of relevance to everyday life situations and realistic, specific guidance. This life-changing book is one you will highly recommend to family and friends.


Reader Testimonials

Reader Testimonials

Move over Dr. Phil and Tony Robbins, Coach Paul has come to town! This book goes beyond self-help and gives the reader all the tools one needs to make real progress in life. A must read!”
— S. Haskin, author of The Gift of Freedom: A Stronger, Safer, You

This is the book for you if you want an objective approach to improving your life. As someone that has gone through numerous corporate and privately sponsored events on self-improvement, I can safely say “ditch the rest” and read this book first.”
— M. Cope, Corporate Executive

“I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to move from simply dreaming about the life he or she wants to actually creating it. If you want to move from dreaming about your ideal life to actually living it, this book has the power to change your life.”
— S. Murray, National Certified Counselor


Preview: Moving Forward


From Chapter 8

One of my favorite movies is called "About a Boy," starring Hugh Grant and costarring Nicholas Hoult. It is the story of a rich, single, Londoner named Will (Grant's character), who learns how to form meaningful relationships by helping a weird kid named Marcus (Hoult's character) cope with life. As the opening credits roll, we see Will living all alone in his expensively furnished apartment. "In my opinion," Will says, "all men are islands." As the story unfolds, we watch Will waste his life in selfish pursuits and meaningless social encounters. Then Marcus comes into his life. As a result, Will realizes how selfish and empty his life has been. By helping Marcus, Will winds up helping himself. As the movie ends, we see that Will's apartment is now full of people. There is Will and his new lady, Marcus and his girlfriend, and several other friends and family members. As the closing credits roll, we discover that Will has modified his opening position as he says, "Every man is an island. I stand by that. But, clearly, some men are part of island chains. Below the surface of the ocean they are actually connected." Will is right: we are all connected. Now we may not be able to see these connections, because some of us are like Will-linked beneath the surface of things, while others of us are more visibly attached. But whether our connections are apparent or hidden, they are there, binding us to each other. There is a Cameroonian proverb that says, "Rain does not fall on one roof alone." This is a wonderful way of illustrating the truth about the communities in which we live: when the rain falls, all of the houses get wet; when the sun shines, all of the houses become dry. That is, the conditions of the world affect all of us, not just one of us. If we work to improve the conditions of the world, each of us will benefit. I have modified this Cameroonian proverb a little and tell my clients and students that "All boats rise together." The all-boats-rise-together concept is helpful to keep in mind when you are trying to move forward in your life. I believe that the reason that so many people stay stuck is because they mistakenly believe that all human beings really are islands-that essentially we are all alone in this world. And so, armed with this false belief, instead of reaching out to others for support, they head off to their local bookstores to purchase the latest self-help book. They scour its pages for remedies to their lifelong dilemmas and diligently begin to implement the recommended strategies. And maybe they get some traction for a little while. They change their diets, they join gyms, they begin to give themselves positive self-talks. They start to move forward a little.and then they come to a crashing stop. They can't sustain their progress. They toss out that book and head off to the store to buy another self-help book, with a different "secret to success." Well, no matter how many books people buy or how many seminars they attend, if their formula for progress does not factor the human community into the equation, then people's efforts are doomed to fail. This sounds harsh, but it's true. As Mark Twain said, "the universal brotherhood of man is our most precious possession." We are each other's best support; we are each other's best resource. This book is unashamedly about helping people find their place in this world by connecting with the people around them. I have found that this is the only way to make real and sustained progress in life. One of my clients, Ron, offers a good example of this. Ron was depressed when he hired me to be his coach. He wasn't suffering from clinical depression, but he did feel sad most of the time, and he didn't really know why. We did his personality assessment and he discovered that his life code was INFPR. I observed that some of his identity elements were out-of-sync with his true self, so we developed a plan for getting them into alignment. As Ron began working on the plan, he still felt depressed about life in general. I asked him to tell me more about his belongings. He mentioned that he didn't really have any. I told him that I was pretty sure that his disconnectedness was part of his depression. I recommended that he volunteer at a local teen crisis center. He resisted at first, telling me that he felt too sad to be of any real help to anyone. I asked him to trust me and try it for two weeks. He agreed reluctantly and went to a center near his house that trained him to answer phones and help the teens who were calling in. The next time I talked to Ron he seemed ...